It's a tale as old as time.
I watch people I love reserve their dreams for brighter days, and then brighter days come and they’re energized by passing blissful moments. It is worthwhile to absorb the present highs we endure, but it is not enough to accept the moment’s beauty and suppress the itching temptation of the joy we know will permeate into every facet of life.
There is so much magic in building how you want your life to be, and to be clear, “building” has many stages to it. Just because you’re not putting up drywall or installing insulation doesn’t mean you’re not “building” your life. You have to prepare the construction site and pour a foundation before you’re able to “build” anything. So, if right now all you’re doing is deciding that you no longer wish to do the same thing every single weekday/end or to stop falling victim to a life that’s rooted in casual contentment, you are still experiencing the magic.
We do not have to settle for what we have been comfortably doing. We do not have to just accept that the lives we want were molded for other people and not us. I know that it may seem difficult to “have it all”, but if anyone tells you that you can’t do x, y, or z, I would suggest politely tuning them out. There is nothing that says we cannot be the full versions of who we want to be. Nothing. Do not let your parent, grandparent, aunt, friend, significant other, or literally anyone tell you that what you want is too far-fetched or unrealistic. If you want something bad enough, use their negation as gasoline for your fire.
I am a 24 year old, unemployed wanderer at this point in time. I have virtually no ground to stand on when preaching that you can “have it all”. By the looks of it, I do not even have half of it. I’m not speaking from experience or from a pedestal I climbed my way onto. You could very well look at where I am in my life and say, “Why would I ever take advice from someone who is so far from ‘making it’?”
I used to think in order for me to be inspirational or spew the wisdom I’ve conjured up over the years, I needed to be 40 years old and have lived through a near-death experience. I always thought that no one would care what a young girl would have to say considering I’m young, a girl, and haven’t lived much of my life yet.
I slowly learned that was a limiting belief that was keeping me from stepping into the fuller version of who I am. It may seem like I am so far from “making it”, but I am in the magic of building my life one stage at a time. If there is even one person I can help along the way, I am wrong to think that only a 40 year old who “made it” has all the answers.
We have to know that the goals and ambition that have made a home of who we are would not have chosen us if they wanted to be given life by someone else. It does not matter how old you are, where you are in your life, how little money you have, or anything for that matter. You don’t have to wait to build the life you want. The process of building simply starts with an idea.
As a true empath, my soul carries the weight of everyone who ever wanted to but didn’t, who thought about it but didn’t act, who had the ambition but lacked the courage. It is the “almost” population that kills me. There are people out there who are faking it till they make it while a world full of talent falls asleep to the voice in their heads telling them they have to wait for brighter days.
If this post even kind of resonates with you, please know that brighter days are ahead. They always will be. But the sun does not have to shine for it to be bright. You can have a cloudy day and still be joyful, but that requires the courage to stop waiting for brighter days and to start being your own sun.
Comments